Sunday, October 04, 2009

I survived.....

Well, I survived the “reception” yesterday and I have a few observations.
I am not a homophobe, I am tolerant and attending did not compromise my values.

It was with much trepidation I attended the “same-sex” reception on Saturday, and while I was not uncomfortable, I was not alone in my views. When the happy couple made speeches Nick and I were not the only ones NOT applauding their commitment. I also noticed many offered “best wishes” as opposed to “congratulations” in the receiving line.

The atmosphere was more birthday party-esque with assigned family seating. We did enjoy ourselves, which had more to do with the company we kept than the event itself. Those folks I had no interest in getting to know better were still the obnoxious blowhards I’d avoided at past company and private functions. The couple was gracious, and at the same time, displayed a vitriolic self-assurance in the eventual recognition of their union in the State of Ohio.

Lessons learned; I can be tolerant and respectful without compromising my morals, faith and values. I am NOT alone. We found many like-minded folks in attendance. Militant liberals have an agenda and social conservatives are much more tolerant and charitable. Again, these are only my observations and not a scientific study. I didn’t try to impose my beliefs on other attendees, but the same could not be said of the opposition.

Am I a better person for my respectful attendance? I don’t know, anyone who knows me will tell you I don't think all that highly of myself to begin with. I’m human, a sinner and fall short of Our Lords grace. While I was able to see people as individuals and not part of a group or an exploitative special interest, something in the back of my mind continued to bother me. Could my mere attendance be misconstrued and infer acceptance?


SkyePuppy said...

Could my mere attendance be misconstrued and infer acceptance?

If they have a chip on their shoulder, they'd interpret either your attendance or lack of it to suit their views. If they don't have a chip on their shoulder, they'll interpret your attendance as you meant it.

janice said...

That's what I was thinking.....

Thanks again, Skye, for your words of wisdom.

Jojo Mellon said...

What exactly would be the problem with accepting two people of the same sex being married? I hope there's a better reason than to blame it on the bible, because this same book also condones rape, orders death for wearing clothes belonging to the opposite sex, and condones killing your own son for being DISOBEDIENT.

" 28 If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. [c] He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives. "

So its ok to rape as long as you have some gold laying around.....

18 If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, 19 his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. 20 They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a drunkard." 21 Then all the men of his town shall stone him to death. You must purge the evil from among you. All Israel will hear of it and be afraid.

So kill your son if he doesnt listen, just DONT BE GAY!!!!!!

It just seems weird to pick and pull only the parts of the bible that you want to follow and to defend them so vehemently yet just ignore the rest of it?

Malott said...

Janice, my friend...

Please forgive me, but I have to finally say this: I believe the best response would have been to write a letter gently saying that you cannot attend a gathering to celebrate something that your Lord speaks so plainly about... But that you still love them and hope that you will always be friends.

You seem to me a woman who thinks deeply and always tries to do what is right. I'm sure this was a hard one.

God keep you!

And yesterday I went along twice with a reprobate friend's immoral joking... It's not easy when it's people you know and like.